You’re probably aware that women often get paid less than men. This is common knowledge. What you might not know, is that sometimes this is simply the result of women not negotiating for more money. We can be too quick to accept whatever we’re given, or too nervous to ask for a raise. Let’s be assertive, ladies! And perhaps the power of visualization will help you.
There is countless advice online about how to ask, and when to ask. I’m not going to repeat what’s been said countless times already. Instead, I’m going to focus on how to muster up the enthusiasm to put yourself in this position; it can be really hard to get the courage to negotiate! Here’s what I do:
- I research to determine what is competitive, and how much I want to ask for.
- I then pick an item that I dearly desire that costs roughly the same amount that I am asking for, and then I tell myself I will purchase that item if they say YES.
For me, I last used the Cartier Ballon Bleu to bribe myself into action. I told myself that if they said yes and gave me an extra $5,000… I would buy the Cartier Ballon Bleu. Now, I’m a practical gal, and I most definitely did not buy the Cartier Ballon Bleu when they said yes. However, knowing that I could felt INCREDIBLE. There was suddenly “free money” on the table that hadn’t been there before!
It doesn’t really matter whether you buy the item or not. Just dangle a carrot in front of your face that makes sense to you. Maybe it’s a trip to Mexico, or a Birkin bag. (And you can still celebrate even if you don’t want to break the bank. Instead of Cartier, I ended up buying myself a Breda watch that was on sale for $30 at Winners. Score!) Come up with a reward that will motivate you to push yourself to action. You can do it!